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S ome men I know have passed up plenty of chances to date gorgeous women. They just rejected her. They did it because she struck them as:. We know these qualities exist in men and women. We pretend that every woman out there is either sweet and nurturing, or misunderstood. Nah, some are just childish — even if they know how to get around in platform heels. They belong with blue-toothed entrepreneurs who spend their free time researching protein powders. My love life was an endless carousel of first dates until I came across a simple quote that changed my entire life.
It was crass, and smart. You had to water yourself down. So I did. I tried to date guys who did not own books, and it did not work out so well. I always wound up unhappy, and eventually single again. I think a lot of guys might have the same problem. If all you want to do is settle for someone and end up miserable in a big house, follow the standard dating advice:. Which le to the first thing:. I have friends who turn the tables. They hit on the guy. They offer to take him out to dinner. They compliment his clothes and his hair and his facial structure.
They send clear als about when they want to be kissed. They initiate sex. And you know what? It works. Most of these women wound up in happy, fulfilling relationships. Sometimes the woman needs to go talk to the shy-looking guy in the corner.
He has more to offer than it looks at first. If you want to talk to someone, then go talk to them. Ask them on a date. Stop worrying about who does what. Immature people torture their partners with invisible rules and expectations. Then they start dating around or hooking up with strangers. Smart men hate this. They have lives. They have things they care about. They just give their attention to people who treat them well. So smart, mature women do their best to say what they think. They communicate their needs and desires — at least eventually. They define the status of the relationship early on.
They send clear als, and convey their interest. Intelligent men have a sense of humor. They can laugh at themselves, and at tough situations. They want more than a woman who pretends to laugh at their bad jokes. They would rather you just be honest with them. They want a woman who can make them laugh. They want a woman to go to standup comedy shows with them. Being a character in a book or a film means you have a story.
Having character in real life means the same thing. Mediocre dates are full of people just answering questions. Tell a story. Show them your character. Like most of the advice here, this also applies to guys. It could be a career, a side hustle, a screenplay, an art studio, or just taking care of a sick family member. Intelligent men love women who can play an instrument or carry a tune.
They love women who paint, run a photography studio, or write decent poetry. A woman who re is a woman who has a longer attention span. She accrues wisdom from more than her own life experience. Where do you find girls who read these days? You might find them in bookstores, if your city still has one.
Men and women are all allowed to start book clubs. In the mean time, read. People think burying their he in the sand will make them happier. All it does is make them less informed. They want someone who cares about things outside her immediate orbit. This comes along with other attractive qualities like empathy, confidence, and engagement with the world around her. They want chemistry, on the physical and intellectual level. All chemistry means is you enjoy being around them. You enjoy talking to them. You enjoy looking at them, and touching them. Physical chemistry tends to take care of itself.
The fewer deal breakers you have, the better. Deal-breakers are just rigid expectations. Deal-breakers are often manifestations of our commitment phobia. Standards are different. They define how you treat someone in a relationship, and how you want to be treated. You talk about them. Mature, intelligent men and women are both looking for someone with matching standards. So should you. in. Felicia C. And vice versa. Jessica Wildfire Follow. They did it because she struck them as: Immature Superficial Selfish Confrontational Jealous Insecure We know these qualities exist in men and women.
Ditch the standard dating advice. If all you want to do is settle for someone and end up miserable in a big house, follow the standard dating advice: Smile at parties. Laugh at bad jokes. Let them pick the restaurant. Stop settling for attractive vs. Which le to the first thing: 1. She can tell a story. She re more than she watches TV. She keeps up with current events.
She has standards, not deal-breakers. I Love You Relationships now. I Love You Follow. Written by Jessica Wildfire Follow. More From Medium. Carrie Wynn in Assemblage. Waheeda Sayyid. Alison Crosthwait in Thinking About Change.
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