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Though dating has never been easier, frustrations with it have never been more vocal and finding love has never seemed more treacherous. When I first moved to London, I was dating online a lot because I didn't have any friends yep, total loser but it was an honest-to-God excellent way to meet people that you've never otherwise had the chance to meet.

It cuts through the initial stress and chat-up BS, and it's simply a lot of young-Mark-Zuckerberg-inspired-Hot-or-Not fun. It was entertaining to talk to so many people who wanted to know where I was from, what I did for a living or if I enjoyed being hogtied to the hood of their Honda Accord.

That last guy got a laugh instead of a date, but, you get it, the apps provided both socialisation and entertainment. I'm lucky beyond belief and just minimally scarred from my almost two years on "the apps". Through the lens provided by my background in economics, I became fascinated with the incentive structures that I could see in the dating arena. It was a market system, with supply and demand dynamics, information asymmetry, and buyers and sellers of sex and commitment.

It seemed to me like human nature was laid bare through the wonder of technology. And through my friends' frustrations, the behaviour of the people I met and my own behaviour within the incentives set by the system, I learned a bit about its main drivers. Here are some of the harsh truths about dating that I've learned in my two-year experiment. It's a story as old as nature itself. Everyone is playing the cards they've been dealt as best they can, and it's a bit jarring to see how little we can escape the grip of evolution.

Women prefer mates that are at least equivalent in success and attractiveness to them, but preferably higher - a trait called hypergamy. This is an ancient instinct that women developed because high-status males could get access to more resources and were more apt to protect their children from dangerous conspecifics. In popular culture, the more avowed representatives of this instinct have been branded as "gold-diggers".

That's why the awkward pictures with guys in suits, grabbing their cufflinks to reveal watches are a thing. You could even say that many men are hypogamous - they prefer women of equal or lower status. Men, overall, don't much care that you've just made partner in your law firm.

What a woman's rising status and success often means is a narrowing of the pool of men that she actually finds attractive. The more successful a woman is, the fewer men will seem eligible, as they have a low chance of being equivalent or higher in status to her.

A highly successful, beautiful woman has slim pickings, while her male equivalent has the world at his feet and can expect to have a revolving door of enthusiastic girls seeking to "mate" with him, and eager to commit to him. On the other side of the coin, given a choice, men prefer beauty and youth, merely because they reflect health and fertility.

It now includes dog face filters, because the anime bug eyes make you look like sexy jailbait, and pictures at festivals in outfits that defy both gravity and the Catholic Church. This is the evolutionary game that we are all in: women's game is an intense but short-lived fire you just don't look the same in hotpants at 45 and men's game is mostly on a steady growth trajectory until their middle and even old age. Back in the day, getting a date with someone was a harrowing experience.

You had to bring your best game to the table and face humiliation and constant rejection. By the time you got your lady to the restaurant, you'd jumped your motorcycle through six burning hoops, rescued three cats out of trees and fed the starving orphans of Liberia.

Now, you can order a date about as easy as you order takeout, and you can cancel it much easier, as the pizza guy is at least asking you to commit to paying for it. Very easy, very low key. It's a simple principle of marketing: People value what they work for much more than what comes easy.

That's why nowadays it's become socially acceptable to ghost someone even after four dates. Especially that infinity of app people. Connection has become a commodity, rather than the hard-earned delicacy of ages past. App dating allows our natural tendencies to show in new and interesting ways, leading to some fascinating insights into how men and women strategise about dating.

In an, admittedly not peer-reviewed study, a Tinder quant crunched some s about male and female behaviour on the app. The are shocking - to anyone that isn't into evolutionary psychology. The top few percents of men, the proverbial "assholes" that all your female friends complain about, have an almost endless harem of available girls from which to choose. A technologically enabled Swedish buffet of poon. These guys don't have a lot of incentive to treat any single girl like a princess when there are 15 other "functional equivalents" blowing up their phone at any time.

A lot of women have the opportunity to go on dates with these high-status guys, but that's about all it is. The incentive to commit to any particular woman is extremely low if you're not so inclined. Not only do these guys have a lot of mate choice, but they probably also want to keep their options open. So, if your standards are as high as the status of the most attractive man you can get on Tinder, you better be well prepared to blow his socks off with beauty, charm and wit, because it's a buyer's market.

Isn't it a bit curious that all the couples you know that have met on Tinder are at least above average looking or, usually, pretty darn hot? Where app dating works, is a thin sliver of fairly beautiful people just below the top, where they are both similar in mate value and attractiveness and both at a stage where they want to commit. Often, a stars-aligning type scenario. The saddest part here isn't even the plight of women. At least they're getting some thing. These guys, your average Joes, are finding it harder to date than ever before because of the simple fact that the captain of the football team is on his fifth date this week.

It's a replay of the situation in ancestral communities where polygamy was the norm. Most women went to the victors of male status competitions, and most men had no chances to mate. That's why monogamy isn't something women impose on men. It's a society-wide egalitarian norm that prevents the Dan Bilzerians of the world from hogging all the women. While a lot of young women spend their 20s investing in their careers and playing the Tinder roulette with the lucky few men at the top, the one thing everyone chooses to ignore is time.

Men and women move in different dimensions when it comes to time. While a year-old man, even an attractive one, is almost a joke in terms of mate value, a year-old woman wields immense power. A young, beautiful woman, even just walking down the street, bends space-time. The covers of men's magazines and the covers of women's magazines are adorned with that fresh-faced beauty. It's , but unfortunately, fleeting.

Men are evolutionarily primed to seek out health and fertility in women - nature's al to attract our attention to a sexy, fresh replication engine. Because freshness is part of the equation, this is a game of speed. Women have about 30 years of fertility on the books, where a steep decline marks the last years. Men's testosterone declines as well with age, but it's more of a mellowing, rather than nature suddenly throwing a spanner into the baby making works.

Men can father children well into their old age, and they do. Charlie Chaplin was 73 when he had his last child, and the sprightly Robert De Niro had one recently, at The fact that men and women work with different timelines isn't a normative statement about what women should do with their lives - women can and should do whatever they want. It's more of a gentle reminder that even though we now play in the same arenas, women sacrifice much more by spending their youth working overtime in a halogen-lit office and in the drudgery of short-term serial monogamy than men do.

And this is a more acute issue than ever. Today, women in America are much more likely to graduate from college than men. Women are leading the pack regarding pay as well - single women with college degrees are making more than their male counterparts. Women are killing it in the workforce and ambitions have never been higher. But "waking up at 30" has a whole different connotation when you're a woman. If you're a guy, waking up at 30 still means taking a shower, eating cereal and playing Call of Duty on the weekend.

Parallel dimensions. There's been a movement to glamourise the childless life in the last few years, culminating with a Time cover where two sexy singles with negligible body fat were lounging on a beach, undisturbed by the pesky future generation. Add to that that nowadays, if you want to be sustainable and save the planet, you better make sure you're completely extinguishing your bloodline by way of vasectomy. It's the only way to save the Angler Fish. While having children is an important, personal and heavy choice to make, be wary of people that have missed the boat imposing their lifestyle on others.

For most women, childlessness isn't a personal statement on gender liberation. It's a sentence. We are living in times where the impact, visibility and perceived importance of the young are enormous. The culture is moulded by social media, and it is democratised, spread out between millions, and almost all the people creating it are under Where in epochs past, the village elders or the old, established, high-status members of society wielded the control of culture, we now live in an era where, because of the ballooning monopoly of social media, it seems like everyone is either young or non-existent.

This relentless focus on youth skews peoples' perception of life in general. In the current zeitgeist, life peaks in your twenties, fizzles out in your thirties and then drags on anonymously and sadly for another years. The truth is, your twenties is ideally the time when you gain experience and make arrangements for the biggest chunk of your life - being an adult and not Adulting, for fuck's sake. If you choose the "single life" you need to fully realise that it looks very different in your twenties than it looks in your fifties.

It won't be all parties, festivals and hanging out with friends. Sure, there are still people hooking up on Tinder at 50, but it's slim pickings - also, hooking up is a different game when your sexy ankle tattoo of Tinkerbell is starting to look a lot more like Meatloaf. Your generation's game of musical chairs has been over for a few decades, and your friends will probably have exited a long time ago.

Even if you want to sink your claws into that life and not let go while time drags you out kicking and screaming, you'll soon be very alone in the club. In time, other things become more important. I know it might not seem that way now, but you'll change too. Don't make bets on the fact that you'll feel like you do now forever, and don't make big decisions on that basis either. Family, community, legacy - these things will probably be centre stage for the biggest part of your life, long after the edgy hedonism of your youth is a hazy memory.

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