Does anyboby have sex anymore

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My husband and I have been married for three years. We moved in together after just six months and were engaged after one year of being together. We got married two years later and I got pregnant soon after. Our sex was always good before I got pregnant. When our baby was born, my husband had postnatal depression and I had to keep everything together. I was finding it hard inside, but just had to act strong for the both of us. That really put a strain on our marriage. Our beautiful baby boy is now 15 months old and we never have sex. Our son has just started to sleep through the night, and I think we have gotten so used to taking care of our son at night and not having sex that now it feels so awkward.

We have date nights and nights off, but we still never want to have sex. I think we will start to miss that side of things. I do really miss the closeness we had. I wish I could bring it back. Please help. Sex tends to be less frequent for new parents, but for most couples, connecting through physical intimacy is an important facet of a healthy marriage. But what gets lost, especially when each person is occupied with their own experience of the transition, is the understanding of how each person is changed by these new roles—and how those changes affect the relationship.

I can imagine how hard it was on you when your husband was suffering from postnatal depression. If talking about what was going on between you two was hard back then, now would be a good time to do so, starting with the pregnancy.

You say that you got pregnant soon after your whirlwind romance and wedding. Similarly, you may want to have a deeper conversation about your respective experiences of the birth itself. So many men feel that something is wrong with them if they found the birth overwhelming or off-putting or even disturbing, because they believe that they were supposed to be able to appreciate the beauty of their child being born, or of the female body doing something natural.

Many men keep quiet about these feelings, which only contributes to their sense of isolation. And then after that, a tsunami of blood came flooding out? And then milk came out of my nipples day and night. What was joyful or funny or bonding about it? What was hard or unexpected or surprising or anxiety-provoking? The same conversation can be had about your roles as new parents.

You say that after the birth you put on a strong front but kept your feelings inside, and I imagine that your husband selected what he shared with you, too, perhaps to protect you from the full depth of his depression. Now the two of you seem to get along swimmingly, but you both probably have a trove of undiscussed feelings about the fact that an important dimension of your relationship has gone missing. And you can always enlist the help of a therapist to guide you. To go from nothing to sex might feel uncomfortable or overwhelming, but as you organically move closer to each other, you both might feel more comfortable rediscovering your desire in the context of this new phase of your life.

Intimacy and desire go through many phases in the course of a life together. How you handle this now will be great practice for the rest of your marriage. Dear Therapist is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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Does anyboby have sex anymore

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Dear Therapist: My Husband and I Don’t Have Sex Anymore